INTRODUCTION

To understand my story and the harm that has been caused to me and to my family, you need to understand a couple of things;

1.)     The term ?therapist? used in my narrative includes; any healthcare practitioner, substance-abuse counselor, addiction specialist, life coach, ADHD counselor, clergy, spiritual advisor, meditation consultant, psychologist, psychiatrist or any other professional engaged in providing counseling and behavior modification services.

 

2.)     Because the relationship is extraordinarily emotional and intimate, there is an inherent imbalance of power formed between a therapist and a client/patient. The imbalance of power is created when the client/patient discloses deeply personal thoughts, feelings and behaviors that make them vulnerable. Because of the imbalance of power, it is the ethical responsibility of the therapist to provide a physically and emotionally safe environment so clients/patients can reveal, process and transcend the most difficult aspects of their psyche in order to heal. 

 

3.)     When a client/patient seeks help from a behavioral health facility, addiction rehab, clinic or from an independent behavioral health professional, they are often suffering and vulnerable. To protect them from abuse and exploitation, standards of care, criminal laws and civil statutes have been enacted. These standards, laws and statues establish responsibilities that therapists must follow to prevent harm to the client/patient. In addition, the codes of ethics in all mental health professions prohibits sexual relationships with client/patients and characterize these relationships as an offense and an abuse of the client/patient.

 

4.)     A sexual relationship between a therapist and their client/patient is strictly prohibited by all ethical standards and is illegal in most states. There is no such thing as ?consensual? sex between a therapist and their client/patient and it is always the responsibility of the therapist to maintain that boundary.

 

Unfortunately, there are a small number of therapists that will take advantage of the power differential that is inherent in these relationships and abuse the client/patients vulnerability and SEXUALLY EXPLOIT the client/patient.  This is often referred to as EMOTIONAL RAPE. In my case, I was suffering from severe alcohol and drug addiction. My issues with ADHD, depression and low self-esteem were deep. I was unhappy and depressed. My personal life, my family life and my relationships were all suffering. I had experienced significant trauma in my childhood. I was engaging in behavior that was destroying my family, my health and that could have been potentially fatal to me.  When I entered treatment, I was looking for HELP! I WAS NOT looking for a sex partner. I WAS vulnerable. I WAS trusting. I WAS taken advantage of. I WAS EXPLOITED!!

HOW I MET GUY B. YEADON, MA COUSELING PSYCHOLOGY

(CURRENTLY SPIRITUAL DIRECTOR AT INFINITE RECOVERY)

 

In the winter of 2015, after decades of drug and alcohol addiction, I checked myself into The Promises Drug and Alcohol Rehabilitation Center in Austin, Texas. I chose The Promises because they offered a ?holistic? approach to treating ?the whole body? using licensed professionals to offer traditional therapy as well as mindfulness, meditation, spirituality and experiential addiction treatments. The holistic approach was very appealing to me as I had many failed attempts at 12-Step and Faith based programs and I thought that maybe a holistic approach would offer me a new opportunity for sobriety.   

When I entered treatment at The Promises, I was introduced to a ?therapist? named Guy B. Yeadon. Guy was presented to me as a drug and alcohol counselor with a Masters in Counseling Psychology from a local seminary and specializing in dual diagnosis treatment of addiction and ADHD using education, meditation, spirituality and mindfulness behavioral therapy.   

Initially, Guy seemed to be a neat person. He appeared to be in his early 50s, wore jeans, had tattoos, was charismatic, had a great sense of humor, seemed caring and had an easy-going nature that appealed to me. I felt comfortable with him and found him relatively easy to talk to. I trusted Guy, which was ultimately the biggest mistake of my life!!!

HOW I WAS ?GROOMED?

Grooming means training someone for a particular purpose by bringing them in close to gain their trust and learning as much about them as you can, so you can then use what you learn to exploit the person?s vulnerabilities.

Unethical therapists and sexual predators often groom clients/patients using the vulnerability that exists in a therapeutic relationship and by offering excessive flattery, promises, gifts, enticing words, physical contact and mental manipulation techniques that disarm a vulnerable person and overcome the person?s defenses by slowly desensitizing the person?s natural reactions to inappropriate behavior.

So how was I groomed? I had met with Guy once or twice a week for four weeks while I was a patient at The Promises. I attended Guy?s meditations; I listened to his lectures and had many personal conversations with him as it related to my addiction and my ADHD. His assessments of my issues were very kind and flattering. He frequently made flirtatious comments about my physical beauty, my clothes, my personality and he often did it in front of large groups of women which, given my low self-esteem, left me feeling important, appreciated and very special. 

A few weeks into our sessions at The Promises, Guy began to solicit me to come to see him at his ?private practice? and continue my ?therapy?. This was a convincing proposition for me because his kind words, compliments and flirtatious flattery were leaving me with an unbelievable sense of confidence and self-esteem. Clearly, Guy knew and understood me far better than any other therapist had, or so I thought, and his kind words were enticing to me. He really made me feel special, so I agreed. At the time, I did not understand that it was inappropriate and I did not realize that he was ?grooming? me for what would later be a hard lesson in sexual exploitation. 

I started seeing Guy at his private practice just a short time after my release from The Promises.  I was meeting Guy at his office at TLEC (The Life Empowerment Center) where he officed and worked.  I attended weekly meditations at The Infinite Recovery Rehabilitation Center and a couple of Sunday church services at The Church of Conscious Harmony, both in Austin, Texas. These were the places where Guy provided his ?treatment services? to me.

I enjoyed my first couple of sessions with Guy, which were often humorous and fun. He listened to me. He wanted to hear what I had to say and seemed to understand me.  Guy also had a unique spirituality about him. His spiritual practice and religious philosophy was very enticing to me. He seemed to have all the answers to life, love and the universe. Because of that, I developed a deep respect for him. I looked up to him as my therapist, teacher, spiritual guide and someone who could counsel me, advise me, protect me and perpetuate my sobriety.  He also continued to make excessive compliments about my beauty, my body and my personality.   

During our second session, Guy convinced me to seek ADHD testing with TLEC owner James Ochoa, who was a therapist that worked in Guy?s office. Guy assured me he knew I was ADHD and would benefit from the testing and medication. I took the test and low and behold, I was severe ADHD.  After that diagnosis, I visited with an ADHD specialist in Houston and had medication prescribed. After a couple months of taking the medication, I decided that the medication was just not for me. I was abusing the medication and I did not like the way it made me feel. I told Guy of this and he asked me to send him my unused medication. I was confused as to why he would want my medication, but I complied with his request anyway. During our next session a couple of days later, I noticed that Guy seemed a little HIGH. I asked Guy if he was taking my medication and he said ?Yes?. I thought to myself WTF! This person is supposed to be my ?addiction? therapist and he is high and taking my meds!!

On or about our third or fourth session, Guy suggested that I see a holistic body reader named ?Energy Erik?. Erik performed a ?reading? for me and told me I had a strong Sexual Chakra. Guy also referred me to a seminar that teaches women to become ?Warrior Goddesses? and teaches that a woman?s sexual energy is the ?core of her creative flow?. The seminar also suggests that open sexual relationships with friends, family or anyone who made you feel good is paramount to being a strong woman. At first, I did not think much of it. I thought perhaps it was his way of helping me work more deeply into some of my trauma issues and supporting me during my recovery.  However, shortly after the reading and the seminar, my sessions with Guy became much more intimate and inappropriate. Guy began to make more frequent sexual jokes and innuendos in our sessions. He even started to invite me to stay over on the weekends and spend personal time with him. Guy also invited me on a vacation to a monastery in Colorado with he and some friends.

Guy continued to make flattering comments about my body, compliment my appearance, ask me about my sexual history and even make off-handed remarks about things we could be doing if not for the therapeutic restrictions. These remarks usually started with ?If you and I were to have sex?? and always took me by surprise. I would stare at him, trying to figure out if he was joking or serious, but I could never read him.

During our subsequent sessions we would often discuss issues related to my ADHD, my emotions and my marriage, but for some reason the subject of sex would always come up. Guy would often tell me of his past girlfriends and sex partners and then ask me about mine. Guy told me that he was a ?13th stepper? in AA for many years and Guy would often solicit my sexual thoughts and ideas. It seemed odd to me at the time and looking back, I realize that he was testing the waters. He was trying to see how far I would go. 

Even though I knew something was not right and I saw the red flags, the grooming had really caused me to drop my defenses and overlook the warnings. I thought to myself that this therapist was amazing! Guy really knows how to make me feel good about myself. I was sober. I was special. I was really feeling the effects of the compliments, the seminars, the readings and my self-esteem was booming. I let my defenses down. I was groomed!

EXPLOITATION

At this point in my therapy, I started to have romantic feelings for Guy.  At the time, I did not know, but I learned that these feelings are common in the therapist/client relationship and are referred to as ?Transference?.  When I told Guy of my feelings, he and I discussed the fact that the feelings were ?Transference? and he assured me that he could not react to them and that this was something we would discuss and monitor as the therapy sessions continued. He stated that I was totally safe because he could not return these feelings.

I was thinking about Guy all the time and our sessions had become more intimate, more sexualized and more highly charged. Over time he had progressed from sexual innuendo and jokes, to full-blown sex talk. I had asked him to stop a couple of times but he did not.

Guy then began to express his sexual feelings towards me. He often told me how he would like to ?shag me in his office bathroom? and made comments like ?if you were my wife I would bend you over all over the house?.  He would often hug me and then make jokes about getting a ?hard-on?.  He also started telling me about his sexual fantasies with me and his masturbation. He was intentionally trying to get me turned-on.

Guy would often post things on social media that reflected the conversations he and I had in his office.  Many of these posts were loving, intimate, and clearly directed at me. They were wrought with suggestions of love and happiness and were enticing me to leave my family and join him. 

Guy was really trying hard to get me to spend personal time with him. He continued to invite me on vacations and trips; he wanted me to hang out with him over the weekends. He invited me to dinner and to concerts. He also suggested that I leave my husband and family so that he and I could open a rehab center together. He told me we were the same. He told me we were a perfect match.

Guy approached all our sexual conversations with nonchalance but, because he fascinated me, there seemed to be no reason for concern. He told me that he trusted me, and that he wanted me to be happy and feel good. He told me I deserved that, and he said he wanted to give that to me.

I never knew what was going to happen in our sessions or which aspect of Guy?s sexual innuendo I would be dealing with. Every session we had would end up about sex and the simple sexual banter had progressed to all out sex-talk and we even talked about planning sexual intercourse. Because of the way he gradually introduced more and more sexual contact, progressing to the next step never seemed like much of a leap.

In late November 2015, Guy asked me why we did not test the limits. Was I afraid of making a mistake? Was I running from him? Well, of course I was! I was scared to death. I was married! I was a nervous wreck! I was losing weight! I was losing my hair!  However, I still kept going back for more.  At this point, the inappropriate conversation and sexual advances started cause me more and more anxiety. While some of the things, he did felt nice, at other times I found myself spacing out, forgetting time and not feeling anything at all. This often happened when he would talk about sex. I felt confused. I again asked him to stop but, often, I felt too embarrassed and uncomfortable to push the issue. I was scared. I was confused. Why he would go so far for me? Why would he take such risks? It made me feel very special. It made me feel like he loved me and I wanted prove my worthiness to him. I thought I was different. I thought I was special. I really did not want to lose this special attention and I was careful not to give him any reason to withdraw it.

Guy assured me that he was there for me and that it would be okay for us to push the envelope. Let go, surrender to whatever feelings I might be having, live in the moment, in the here and now, if it were meant to happen it would happen, just let go and see what happens as he used to say! Between the grooming, transference and natural psychological attachment, I became addicted to him; I was willing to do pretty much anything he suggested. I was hooked.

Guy also made sure that I knew that, whatever we chose to do, we could never have a relationship outside and around the people we know. He made sure to let me know that he was breaking the rules and if anyone found out what we were doing, he would lose his job. We had to be careful and keep things ?hush hush?.  

In early December 2015, I succumbed to Guy?s suggestion. I agreed to have sex with him. He had been soliciting nude photos from me and was encouraging me to ?be bold? and send him pictures of everything. He told me he would hold anything I sent in great confidence. Since we had already been sexting over a cell phone almost daily for a month, sex did not seem like much of a leap. On December 27th, we made a specific plan to meet at a bar, then go to a hotel, and spend the weekend together. We were going to have sex and I was all in!  I was leaving my family for good and having sex with my therapist!!

I am going to stop the story there. What happened next is not relevant. What I will say is WE DID NOT HAVE SEX. I stopped it. It was inappropriate and I knew it. Guy knew it too! Early on, he was very clear that what he was doing was a violation of the rules and the code of ethics and that if anyone found out he would lose his job.

THE AFTER MATH

For seven months I had regular therapy sessions with Guy Yeadon and even though these sessions were wrought with sexual banter, sexual innuendo and sexual advances by him, he took payment for every session!!!  I spent these seven months feeling like I was on an emotional rollercoaster. The emotional and physical bonding that occurred when we talked about sex was intense and would leave me feeling high; but once that wore off, I would panic. I was afraid. I was constantly experiencing cycles of intense psychological bonding with my therapist followed by extreme instability, insecurity, emotional and physical despair along with a deep fear of loss and abandonment. I felt depressed, anxious, confused and ashamed.

I found myself caught up in a cycle. My hair was falling out, I was losing weight. My moods were all over the place. I hit bottom. I lost all sense of personal power and had very little sense of self. I felt worthless. I felt so much despair, confusion and pain that I really did not want to live.  I taught myself to disconnect from my emotions so that I would not feel the pain. I tried to make everything not matter in order to survive.

I have started revealing the secrets. I have told my family what had been going on and went to see another therapist who referred me to a trauma center for treatment. I?ve launched an all-out desperate search for healing,

I HAVE tried to make sense of what happened and fill the void left by the sexual exploitation.  What I have learned is that Guy betrayed me. He abused me. He took advantage of my vulnerabilities and my trust and exploited me. Sex between a therapist and client/patient is NEVER OK and he knew it!

I have also learned that spirituality, mysticism, mind-control and brainwashing played a big part in my relationship with Guy. He often used teachings from Eastern philosophy in our therapy. He regularly recommended books by ?new age gurus?. He was big on subjects that had to do with not taking responsibility for one?s choices, letting go of emotions and thinking happy thoughts by living in the here and now and embracing your dark side. He often referred to a mystical realm where a transmission of energy could turn your life around and heal whatever ailed you. I chanted mantras that he taught me. Prayed to Gods I did not understand and attended sessions with instructors that encouraged me to explore sexuality with multiple partners and open my third eye and sexual chakras.

I have proceeded to break all of my ties to Eastern Religion and Mysticism. I have done this not simply because I associated it with Guy, but because I have discovered many more accounts alleging that others who claimed to be spiritually enlightened therapists like Guy, have engaged in sexually abusive relationships like this one.

Although I thought that everything would be fine once I was out and away from him, in fact, things got worse. Now I have a new problem to contend with; PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder). It is common for abuse victims to experience PTSD and that is certainly the case for me.

I have also had to deal with the loss of the fantasy I had been so sure was real. The disillusionment was traumatic and the fact that I had believed in him, left me feeling very ashamed!! Also, after a couple of months feeling oddly after breaking off contact with him, I have started to experience major anxiety, hypervigilance, brain fog, light-headedness intrusive memories, flashbacks - the works.

I have had to contend with all the reminders of him that are triggering my PTSD responses, the repressed feelings that were now making themselves known and the near-daily realizations about what had actually been going on all that time. WHAT GUY DID TO ME WAS WRONG!

IT IS NEVER OK FOR A COUNSLEOR TO TRY TO HAVE SEX WITH A CLIENT/PATIENT. THE HARM THIS CAUSES TO THE PATIENT IS IMMEASUABLE, LONG LASTING AND POTENTIALLY LIFE THREATENING. 

GETTING MY POWER BACK

Guy has never taken responsibility for his actions or the impact they had on me. The decision to file a civil lawsuit has not been an easy one. Several people have suggested that it would be a way for me to ?get my power back?.  My husband has met with an attorney but I have not yet began the process of filing the civil complaints.

Recovery is not a short-term process. Healing from an experience like this is difficult. Expressing difficult memories and feelings is confusing. My perspective on what happened and why it happened changes daily as I reach deeper and deeper into levels of awareness and understanding. I am angry. I am angry with Guy for what he did to me. I am angry with myself for turning an abusive relationship into a fantasy.

Such a big part of healing is accepting oneself and one?s reality. I cannot undo the past. This will always be part of my life. However, I can learn to accept it.  I did the best I could. I did the only thing I knew how to do. It is now up to me to accept myself and offer myself my own forgiveness and compassion.

What Guy did was unconscionable. I was his client/patient.

I feel very grateful for the support of my friends and family as well as the subsequent therapists and healthcare practitioners who have helped me during my recovery process.

 

INTRODUCTION

To comprehend my story and understand the harm that has been caused to me and to my family, you need to know a couple of things;

The term “therapist” used in my narrative includes; any healthcare practitioner, substance-abuse counselor, addiction specialist, life coach, ADHD counselor, clergy, spiritual advisor, meditation consultant, psychologist, psychiatrist or any other professional engaged in providing counseling and behavior modification services.

 
Because the relationship is extraordinarily emotional and intimate, there is an inherent imbalance of power formed between a therapist and a client/patient. The imbalance of power is created when the client/patient discloses deeply personal thoughts, feelings and behaviors that make them vulnerable. Because of the imbalance of power, it is the ethical responsibility of the therapist to provide a physically and emotionally safe environment so clients/patients can reveal, process and transcend the most difficult aspects of their psyche in order to heal. 

 
When a client/patient seeks help from a behavioral health facility, addiction rehab, clinic or from an independent behavioral health professional, they are often suffering and vulnerable. To protect them from abuse and exploitation, standards of care, criminal laws and civil statutes have been enacted. These standards, laws and statues establish responsibilities that therapists must follow to prevent harm to the client/patient. In addition, the codes of ethics in all mental health professions prohibits sexual relationships with client/patients and characterize these relationships as an offense and an abuse of the client/patient.

 
A sexual relationship between a therapist and their client/patient is strictly prohibited by all ethical standards and is illegal in most states. There is no such thing as “consensual” sex between a therapist and their client/patient and it is always the responsibility of the therapist to maintain that boundary.

 
Unfortunately, there are a small number of therapists that will take advantage of the power differential that is inherent in these relationships and abuse the client/patients vulnerability and SEXUALLY EXPLOIT the client/patient.  This is often referred to as EMOTIONAL RAPE. In my case, I was suffering from severe alcohol and drug addiction. My issues with ADHD, depression and low self-esteem were deep. I was unhappy and depressed. My personal life, my family life and my relationships were all suffering. I had experienced significant trauma in my childhood. I was engaging in behavior that was destroying my family, my health and that could have been potentially fatal to me.  When I entered treatment, I was looking for HELP! I WAS NOT looking for a sex partner. I WAS vulnerable. I WAS trusting. I WAS taken advantage of. I WAS EXPLOITED!!

HOW I MET GUY B. YEADON, MA COUSELING PSYCHOLOGY

(CURRENTLY SPIRITUAL DIRECTOR AT INFINITE RECOVERY)

 

In the winter of 2015, after decades of drug and alcohol addiction, I checked myself into The Promises Drug and Alcohol Rehabilitation Center in Austin, Texas. I chose The Promises because they offered a “holistic” approach to treating “the whole body” using licensed professionals to offer traditional therapy as well as mindfulness, meditation, spirituality and experiential addiction treatments. The holistic approach was very appealing to me as I had many failed attempts at 12-Step and Faith based programs and I thought that maybe a holistic approach would offer me a new opportunity for sobriety.   

When I entered treatment at The Promises, I was introduced to a “therapist” named Guy B. Yeadon. Guy was presented to me as a drug and alcohol counselor with a Masters in Counseling Psychology from a local seminary and specializing in dual diagnosis treatment of addiction and ADHD using education, meditation, spirituality and mindfulness behavioral therapy.   

Initially, Guy seemed to be a neat person. He appeared to be in his early 50s, wore jeans, had tattoos, was charismatic, had a great sense of humor, seemed caring and had an easy-going nature that appealed to me. I felt comfortable with him and found him relatively easy to talk to. I trusted Guy, which was ultimately the biggest mistake of my life!!!

HOW I WAS “GROOMED”

Grooming means training someone for a particular purpose by bringing them in close to gain their trust and learning as much about them as you can, so you can then use what you learn to exploit the person’s vulnerabilities.

Unethical therapists and sexual predators often groom clients/patients using the vulnerability that exists in a therapeutic relationship and by offering excessive flattery, promises, gifts, enticing words, physical contact and mental manipulation techniques that disarm a vulnerable person and overcome the person’s defenses by slowly desensitizing the person’s natural reactions to inappropriate behavior.

So how was I groomed? I had met with Guy once or twice a week for four weeks while I was a patient at The Promises. I attended Guy’s meditations; I listened to his lectures and had many personal conversations with him as it related to my addiction and my ADHD. His assessments of my issues were very kind and flattering. He frequently made flirtatious comments about my physical beauty, my clothes, my personality and he often did it in front of large groups of women which, given my low self-esteem, left me feeling important, appreciated and very special. 

A few weeks into our sessions at The Promises, Guy began to solicit me to come to see him at his “private practice” and continue my “therapy”. This was a convincing proposition for me because his kind words, compliments and flirtatious flattery were leaving me with an unbelievable sense of confidence and self-esteem. Clearly, Guy knew and understood me far better than any other therapist had, or so I thought, and his kind words were enticing to me. He really made me feel special, so I agreed. At the time, I did not understand that it was inappropriate and I did not realize that he was “grooming” me for what would later be a hard lesson in sexual exploitation. 

I started seeing Guy at his private practice just a short time after my release from The Promises.  I was meeting Guy at his office at TLEC (The Life Empowerment Center) where he officed and worked.  I attended weekly meditations at The Infinite Recovery Rehabilitation Center and a couple of Sunday church services at The Church of Conscious Harmony, both in Austin, Texas. These were the places where Guy provided his “treatment services” to me.

I enjoyed my first couple of sessions with Guy, which were often humorous and fun. He listened to me. He wanted to hear what I had to say and seemed to understand me.  Guy also had a unique spirituality about him. His spiritual practice and religious philosophy was very enticing to me. He seemed to have all the answers to life, love and the universe. Because of that, I developed a deep respect for him. I looked up to him as my therapist, teacher, spiritual guide and someone who could counsel me, advise me, protect me and perpetuate my sobriety.  He also continued to make excessive compliments about my beauty, my body and my personality.   

During our second session, Guy convinced me to seek ADHD testing with TLEC owner James Ochoa, who was a therapist that worked in Guy’s office. Guy assured me he knew I was ADHD and would benefit from the testing and medication. I took the test and low and behold, I was severe ADHD.  After that diagnosis, I visited with an ADHD specialist in Houston and had medication prescribed. After a couple months of taking the medication, I decided that the medication was just not for me. I was abusing the medication and I did not like the way it made me feel. I told Guy of this and he asked me to send him my unused medication. I was confused as to why he would want my medication, but I complied with his request anyway. During our next session a couple of days later, I noticed that Guy seemed a little HIGH. I asked Guy if he was taking my medication and he said “Yes”. I thought to myself WTF! This person is supposed to be my “addiction” therapist and he is high and taking my meds!!

On or about our third or fourth session, Guy suggested that I see a holistic body reader named “Energy Erik”. Erik performed a “reading” for me and told me I had a strong Sexual Chakra. Guy also referred me to a seminar that teaches women to become “Warrior Goddesses” and teaches that a woman’s sexual energy is the “core of her creative flow”. The seminar also suggests that open sexual relationships with friends, family or anyone who made you feel good is paramount to being a strong woman. At first, I did not think much of it. I thought perhaps it was his way of helping me work more deeply into some of my trauma issues and supporting me during my recovery.  However, shortly after the reading and the seminar, my sessions with Guy became much more intimate and inappropriate. Guy began to make more frequent sexual jokes and innuendos in our sessions. He even started to invite me to stay over on the weekends and spend personal time with him. Guy also invited me on a vacation to a monastery in Colorado with he and some friends.

Guy continued to make flattering comments about my body, compliment my appearance, ask me about my sexual history and even make off-handed remarks about things we could be doing if not for the therapeutic restrictions. These remarks usually started with “If you and I were to have sex…” and always took me by surprise. I would stare at him, trying to figure out if he was joking or serious, but I could never read him.

During our subsequent sessions we would often discuss issues related to my ADHD, my emotions and my marriage, but for some reason the subject of sex would always come up. Guy would often tell me of his past girlfriends and sex partners and then ask me about mine. Guy told me that he was a “13th stepper” in AA for many years and Guy would often solicit my sexual thoughts and ideas. It seemed odd to me at the time and looking back, I realize that he was testing the waters. He was trying to see how far I would go. 

Even though I knew something was not right and I saw the red flags, the grooming had really caused me to drop my defenses and overlook the warnings. I thought to myself that this therapist was amazing! Guy really knows how to make me feel good about myself. I was sober. I was special. I was really feeling the effects of the compliments, the seminars, the readings and my self-esteem was booming. I let my defenses down. I was groomed!

EXPLOITATION

At this point in my therapy, I started to have romantic feelings for Guy.  At the time, I did not know, but I learned that these feelings are common in the therapist/client relationship and are referred to as “Transference”.  When I told Guy of my feelings, he and I discussed the fact that the feelings were “Transference” and he assured me that he could not react to them and that this was something we would discuss and monitor as the therapy sessions continued. He stated that I was totally safe because he could not return these feelings.

I was thinking about Guy all the time and our sessions had become more intimate, more sexualized and more highly charged. Over time he had progressed from sexual innuendo and jokes, to full-blown sex talk. I had asked him to stop a couple of times but he did not.

Guy then began to express his sexual feelings towards me. He often told me how he would like to “shag me in his office bathroom” and made comments like “if you were my wife I would bend you over all over the house”.  He would often hug me and then make jokes about getting a “hard-on”.  He also started telling me about his sexual fantasies with me and his masturbation. He was intentionally trying to get me turned-on.

Guy would often post things on social media that reflected the conversations he and I had in his office.  Many of these posts were loving, intimate, and clearly directed at me. They were wrought with suggestions of love and happiness and were enticing me to leave my family and join him. 

Guy was really trying hard to get me to spend personal time with him. He continued to invite me on vacations and trips; he wanted me to hang out with him over the weekends. He invited me to dinner and to concerts. He also suggested that I leave my husband and family so that he and I could open a rehab center together. He told me we were the same. He told me we were a perfect match.

Guy approached all our sexual conversations with nonchalance but, because he fascinated me, there seemed to be no reason for concern. He told me that he trusted me, and that he wanted me to be happy and feel good. He told me I deserved that, and he said he wanted to give that to me.

I never knew what was going to happen in our sessions or which aspect of Guy’s sexual innuendo I would be dealing with. Every session we had would end up about sex and the simple sexual banter had progressed to all out sex-talk and we even talked about planning sexual intercourse. Because of the way he gradually introduced more and more sexual contact, progressing to the next step never seemed like much of a leap.

In late November 2015, Guy asked me why we did not test the limits. Was I afraid of making a mistake? Was I running from him? Well, of course I was! I was scared to death. I was married! I was a nervous wreck! I was losing weight! I was losing my hair!  However, I still kept going back for more.  At this point, the inappropriate conversation and sexual advances started cause me more and more anxiety. While some of the things, he did felt nice, at other times I found myself spacing out, forgetting time and not feeling anything at all. This often happened when he would talk about sex. I felt confused. I again asked him to stop but, often, I felt too embarrassed and uncomfortable to push the issue. I was scared. I was confused. Why he would go so far for me? Why would he take such risks? It made me feel very special. It made me feel like he loved me and I wanted prove my worthiness to him. I thought I was different. I thought I was special. I really did not want to lose this special attention and I was careful not to give him any reason to withdraw it.

Guy assured me that he was there for me and that it would be okay for us to push the envelope. Let go, surrender to whatever feelings I might be having, live in the moment, in the here and now, if it were meant to happen it would happen, just let go and see what happens as he used to say! Between the grooming, transference and natural psychological attachment, I became addicted to him; I was willing to do pretty much anything he suggested. I was hooked.

Guy also made sure that I knew that, whatever we chose to do, we could never have a relationship outside and around the people we know. He made sure to let me know that he was breaking the rules and if anyone found out what we were doing, he would lose his job. We had to be careful and keep things “hush hush”.  

In early December 2015, I succumbed to Guy’s suggestion. I agreed to have sex with him. He had been soliciting nude photos from me and was encouraging me to “be bold” and send him pictures of everything. He told me he would hold anything I sent in great confidence. Since we had already been sexting over a cell phone almost daily for a month, sex did not seem like much of a leap. On December 27th, we made a specific plan to meet at a bar, then go to a hotel, and spend the weekend together. We were going to have sex and I was all in!  I was leaving my family for good and having sex with my therapist!!

I am going to stop the story there. What happened next is not relevant. What I will say is WE DID NOT HAVE SEX. I stopped it. It was inappropriate and I knew it. Guy knew it too! Early on, he was very clear that what he was doing was a violation of the rules and the code of ethics and that if anyone found out he would lose his job.

THE AFTER MATH

For seven months I had regular therapy sessions with Guy Yeadon and even though these sessions were wrought with sexual banter, sexual innuendo and sexual advances by him, he took payment for every session!!!  I spent these seven months feeling like I was on an emotional rollercoaster. The emotional and physical bonding that occurred when we talked about sex was intense and would leave me feeling high; but once that wore off, I would panic. I was afraid. I was constantly experiencing cycles of intense psychological bonding with my therapist followed by extreme instability, insecurity, emotional and physical despair along with a deep fear of loss and abandonment. I felt depressed, anxious, confused and ashamed.

I found myself caught up in a cycle. My hair was falling out, I was losing weight. My moods were all over the place. I hit bottom. I lost all sense of personal power and had very little sense of self. I felt worthless. I felt so much despair, confusion and pain that I really did not want to live.  I taught myself to disconnect from my emotions so that I would not feel the pain. I tried to make everything not matter in order to survive.

I have started revealing the secrets. I have told my family what had been going on and went to see another therapist who referred me to a trauma center for treatment. I‘ve launched an all-out desperate search for healing,

I HAVE tried to make sense of what happened and fill the void left by the sexual exploitation.  What I have learned is that Guy betrayed me. He abused me. He took advantage of my vulnerabilities and my trust and exploited me. Sex between a therapist and client/patient is NEVER OK and he knew it!

I have also learned that spirituality, mysticism, mind-control and brainwashing played a big part in my relationship with Guy. He often used teachings from Eastern philosophy in our therapy. He regularly recommended books by “new age gurus”. He was big on subjects that had to do with not taking responsibility for one’s choices, letting go of emotions and thinking happy thoughts by living in the here and now and embracing your dark side. He often referred to a mystical realm where a transmission of energy could turn your life around and heal whatever ailed you. I chanted mantras that he taught me. Prayed to Gods I did not understand and attended sessions with instructors that encouraged me to explore sexuality with multiple partners and open my third eye and sexual chakras.

I have proceeded to break all of my ties to Eastern Religion and Mysticism. I have done this not simply because I associated it with Guy, but because I have discovered many more accounts alleging that others who claimed to be spiritually enlightened therapists like Guy, have engaged in sexually abusive relationships like this one.

Although I thought that everything would be fine once I was out and away from him, in fact, things got worse. Now I have a new problem to contend with; PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder). It is common for abuse victims to experience PTSD and that is certainly the case for me.

I have also had to deal with the loss of the fantasy I had been so sure was real. The disillusionment was traumatic and the fact that I had believed in him, left me feeling very ashamed!! Also, after a couple of months feeling oddly after breaking off contact with him, I have started to experience major anxiety, hypervigilance, brain fog, light-headedness intrusive memories, flashbacks - the works.

I have had to contend with all the reminders of him that are triggering my PTSD responses, the repressed feelings that were now making themselves known and the near-daily realizations about what had actually been going on all that time. WHAT GUY DID TO ME WAS WRONG!

IT IS NEVER OK FOR A COUNSLEOR TO TRY TO HAVE SEX WITH A CLIENT/PATIENT. THE HARM THIS CAUSES TO THE PATIENT IS IMMEASUABLE, LONG LASTING AND POTENTIALLY LIFE THREATENING. 

GETTING MY POWER BACK

Guy has never taken responsibility for his actions or the impact they had on me. The decision to file a civil lawsuit has not been an easy one. Several people have suggested that it would be a way for me to “get my power back”.  My husband has met with an attorney but I have not yet began the process of filing the civil complaints.

Recovery is not a short-term process. Healing from an experience like this is difficult. Expressing difficult memories and feelings is confusing. My perspective on what happened and why it happened changes daily as I reach deeper and deeper into levels of awareness and understanding. I am angry. I am angry with Guy for what he did to me. I am angry with myself for turning an abusive relationship into a fantasy.

Such a big part of healing is accepting oneself and one’s reality. I cannot undo the past. This will always be part of my life. However, I can learn to accept it.  I did the best I could. I did the only thing I knew how to do. It is now up to me to accept myself and offer myself my own forgiveness and compassion.

What Guy did was unconscionable. I was his client/patient.

I feel very grateful for the support of my friends and family as well as the subsequent therapists and healthcare practitioners who have helped me during my recovery process.

INTRODUCTION

To comprehend my story and understand the harm that has been caused to me and to my family, you need to know a couple of things;

  1. The term “therapist” used in my narrative includes; any healthcare practitioner, substance-abuse counselor, addiction specialist, life coach, ADHD counselor, clergy, spiritual advisor, meditation consultant, psychologist, psychiatrist or other professional engaged in providing counseling and behavior modification services.
  2. Because the relationship between a therapist and client/patient is extraordinarily emotional and intimate, there is an inherent imbalance of power that is formed.  The imbalance of power is created when the client/patient discloses deeply personal thoughts, feelings and behaviors that make them vulnerable. Because of the imbalance of power, it is the ethical responsibility of the therapist to provide a physically and emotionally safe environment so clients/patients can reveal, process and transcend the most difficult aspects of their psyche in order to heal. 
  3.  When a client/patient seeks help from a behavioral health facility, addiction rehab, clinic or from an independent behavioral health professional, they are often suffering and vulnerable. To protect them from abuse and exploitation, standards of care, criminal laws and civil statutes have been enacted. These standards, laws and statues establish responsibilities that therapists must follow to prevent harm to the client/patient. In addition, the code of ethics in all mental health professions prohibits sexual relationships with client/patients and characterize these relationships as an offense and an abuse of the client/patient.
  4.  A sexual relationship between a therapist and their client/patient is strictly prohibited by all ethical standards and is illegal in most states. There is no such thing as “consensual” sex between a therapist and their client/patient and it is always the responsibility of the therapist to maintain that boundary.

 
Unfortunately, there are a small number of therapists that will take advantage of the power differential that is inherent in these relationships. Generally speaking the therapist will  exploit the client/patients vulnerability and SEXUALLY EXPLOIT the client/patient for the therapist's own personal gratification.  This is often referred to as EMOTIONAL RAPE. In my wife's case, she was suffering from severe addiction. She had issues with ADHD, depression and low self-esteem. After years of struggling with her addiction, she was unhappy and depressed.  Her personal life, family life and relationships were all suffering. She had experienced significant trauma in her childhood. She was engaging in behavior that was destroying our family, her health and that could have been potentially fatal to her.  When she entered treatment, she was looking for HELP! She WAS NOT looking for a sex partner. She WAS vulnerable. She WAS trusting and she WAS taken advantage of. She WAS EXPLOITED!!

HOW SHE MET GUY B. YEADON, MA COUSELING PSYCHOLOGY

In early 2015, after decades of addiction, she checked herself into The Promises Drug and Alcohol Rehabilitation Center in Austin, Texas. She chose The Promises because they offered a “holistic” approach to treating “the whole body” using licensed professionals to offer traditional therapy as well as mindfulness, meditation, spirituality and experiential addiction treatments. The holistic approach was very appealing to her as she had many failed attempts at 12-Step and Faith based programs and she thought that maybe a holistic approach would offer a new opportunity for sobriety.   

When she entered treatment at The Promises, she was introduced to a “therapist” named Guy B. Yeadon. Guy was presented as a drug and alcohol counselor with a Master's Degree in Counseling Psychology from a local seminary and specializing in dual diagnosis treatment of addiction and ADHD using education, meditation, spirituality and mindfulness behavioral therapy.   

Initially, Guy seemed to be a neat person. He appeared to be in his early 50s, wore jeans, had tattoos, was charismatic, had a great sense of humor, seemed caring and had an easy-going nature that appealed to her. She felt comfortable with him and found him relatively easy to talk to. She trusted Guy, which was ultimately the biggest mistake of her life!!!

HOW SHE WAS “GROOMED”

Grooming means training someone for a particular purpose by bringing them in close to gain their trust and learning as much about them as you can, so you can then use what you learn to exploit the person’s vulnerabilities.

Unethical therapists and sexual predators often "groom" clients/patients exploiting the vulnerability that exists in a therapeutic relationship by offering excessive flattery, promises, gifts, enticing words, physical contact and mental manipulation techniques that disarm a vulnerable person to overcome the person’s defenses by slowly desensitizing the person’s natural reactions to inappropriate behavior.

So how was she groomed? My wife had been meeting with Guy B. Yeadon once or twice a week for four weeks while she was a patient at The Promises. She attended Guy’s meditations; she listened to his lectures and had many personal conversations with him as it related to her addiction and ADHD. His assessments of her issues were very kind and flattering. He frequently made flirtatious comments about her physical beauty, clothes and her personality. He often offered these comments in front of large groups of women which, given her low self-esteem, left her feeling important, appreciated and very special. 

A few weeks into their sessions at The Promises, Guy began to solicit my wife to come to see him at his “private practice” and continue her “therapy”.  His private practice was conducted at TLEC (The Life Empowerment Center) in Austin, Texas.  This offer was a convincing proposition for her because his kind words, compliments and flirtatious flattery were leaving her with an unbelievable sense of confidence and self-esteem. Clearly, Guy knew and understood her far better than any other therapist had, or so she thought , and his kind words were very enticing.  He had made her feel very special at The Promises, so she agreed. At the time, she did not understand that what he was doing at The Promises was inappropriate and did not realize that he was “grooming” her for what would later be a hard lesson in sexual exploitation. 

She started seeing Guy at his "private practice" just a short time after her release from The Promises.  She was meeting Guy at his office at TLEC (The Life Empowerment Center) where he officed and worked.  She attended many of his weekly meditations at The Infinite Recovery Rehabilitation Center in Austin, Texas and Sunday church services with Guy at The Church of Conscious Harmony in Austin, Texas. These were the places where Guy provided his “treatment services” to her.

The first couple of sessions with Guy went well. They were  humorous and fun. He listened to her. He wanted to hear what she had to say and seemed to understand her.  Guy also had a unique spirituality about him. His spiritual practice and religious philosophy was very enticing. He seemed to have all the answers to life, love and the universe. Because of that, she developed a deep respect for him. She looked up to him as her therapist, teacher, spiritual guide and someone who could counsel, advise, protect and perpetuate her sobriety.  Guy also continued to make excessive compliments about her beauty, body and personality which fueled her self esteem and created a dependence on Guy. She was the perfect patient, she was his perfect victim!    

During the second session, Guy convinced her to seek ADHD testing with TLEC therapist James Ochoa, who worked in Guy’s office. Guy assured her that he knew that she was ADHD and would benefit from testing and medication. She agreed to take the test and not surprisingly, she was diagnosed as severe ADHD.  After that diagnosis, she visited with an ADHD physician, shared the diagnosis and was prescribed medication. A couple months later, after of taking the medication, she decided that the medication was not for her. She had started taking the medication and did not like the way it made her feel. She told Guy of this and he asked her to send him the unused portion of the medication. She was confused as to why he would want her medication, but complied with his request anyway. During a session a couple of days later, she noticed that Guy seemed a little HIGH. She asked Guy if he was taking her medication and he said “Yes”. She thought to herself  "WTF"? This person is supposed to be my “addiction” therapist and he is high and taking my medication!!" She told me of this and I thought what kind of therapist illegally solicits and consumes another person's Schedule II Controlled Substance?

On or about the third or fourth session, Guy suggested that she see a holistic body reader named “Energy Erik” or Erik Willeck. Erik performed a “reading” for her and told her she had a strong "Sexual Chakra". Guy also referred her to a seminar taught by Heather Ash Amara that teaches women to become “Warrior Goddesses” and teaches that a woman’s sexual energy is the “core of her creative flow”. The seminar also suggests that open sexual relationships with friends, family or anyone who makes you feel good is paramount to being a strong woman. At first, she did not think much of it. She thought perhaps it was his way of helping her work more deeply into some of her  trauma issues and supporting her during her recovery.  However, shortly after the reading and the seminar, the sessions with Guy became much more intimate and inappropriate. Guy began to make more frequent sexual jokes and innuendos in the sessions and even started to invite her to spend personal time with him going out to restaraunts and to see bands with him in Austin.  Guy also invited her on a vacation to a monastery in Colorado with he and some friends. She was now starting to get a little suspicious. This guy is supposed to be her therapist, why is everything starting to get sexual, she thought.

Guy continued to make flattering comments about her body and compliment her appearance. They offen discussed sexual topics and he would even make off-handed remarks about the sexual things she and he could be doing if not for the therapeutic restrictions. These remarks usually started with “If you and I were to have sex…” and always took her by surprise. She would stare at him, trying to figure out if he was joking or if he was serious, but could never read him.

During her subsequent sessions they would discuss issues related to her ADHD, emotions and her  marriage, but for some reason the subject of sex would always come up. Guy would often tell her of his past girlfriends and sex partners.  Guy told her that he was a “13th stepper” in AA for many years and he would often solicit her sexual thoughts and ideas. It seemed odd to her at the time and looking back, she has learned that he was just testing the waters. He was trying to see how far she would allow him to go. 

Even though she felt like something was not right and saw the red flags, the "grooming" had really caused her  to drop her defenses and overlook the warnings. She had thought to herself that this therapist was amazing! Guy really knew how to make her feel good about herself. She was sober and he made her feel very special. At this point she was really feeling the effects of the compliments, the seminars, the readings and her self-esteem was booming. She had let her defenses down. She was groomed!

EXPLOITATION

At this point in the therapy, she started to have romantic feelings for Guy.  At the time, she did not know, but later learned that these feelings are common in the therapist/client relationship and are referred to as “Transference”.  When she told Guy of her feelings, he even discussed with her the fact that the feelings were normal and were “Transference”, but he assured her that he could not react to them and that this was something they would discuss and monitor as the therapy sessions continued. He stated that she was totally safe with him because he was prohibited from returning these feelings.

After she told Guy that she was thinking about him all of the time, their sessions again became more and more intimate, more sexualized and more highly charged. He had now progressed from sexual innuendo and jokes, to full-blown sex talk. He was very graphic and suggestive. He was way over the line. She had asked him to stop a couple of times but he did not. She even asked one of his friends, Julie Warner, to ask him to stop. She and Julie both told him that his behavior was having a negative effect on her therapy and that it was inappropriate.

Guy ignored these requests. He did not  maintain the boundary as requested. He did not maintain the boundary as he was REQUIRED.  Guy started to express his sexual feelings towards her. He often said to her how he would like to “shag" her in his office bathroom and made comments like “if you were my wife I would bend you over all over the house”.  He would often hug her and then make jokes about getting a “hard-on”.  He also started telling her about his sexual fantasies with her and how he was  masturbating to the thought of her. He was intentionally trying to get her turned-on. He was exploiting her vulnerabilities.

Guy would often post things on social media that reflected the conversations he and she had in his office.  Many of these posts were loving, intimate and clearly directed at her. They were wrought with suggestions of love and happiness and were enticing her to leave her family and join him.  This was all very confusing to her.

Guy was trying hard to get her to spend personal time with him. He continued to invite her  on vacations and trips; he wanted her to hang out with him over the weekends. He invited her to dinner and to concerts. He told her they were the same. He told her they  were a perfect match.  He also told her that they had to keep the relationship secret. He knew what he was doing was wrong!

Guy approached all of the sexual conversations with nonchalance but, because he fascinated her and she was groomed, she didn't see the concern. He told her that he trusted her and wanted her to be happy and feel good.  She never really knew what was going to happen in the sessions or which aspect of Guy’s sexual innuendo and personaility she would be dealing with. Every session they had would end up talking about sex and the simple sexual banter that had started it all was now all out sex-talk.  They were now talking about planning sexual intercourse. Because of the way he had gradually introduced more and more sexual contact, progressing to the next step of actually having sex never seemed like much of a leap for her. She was really starting to fall apart. 

In late 2015, Guy began to test the limits even more. Guy asked her if she was afraid of making a mistake. He asked if she was running from him? Well, of course she was! She was scared to death at this point. She was married and he knew it! She was his patient and she knew it was wrong!  She was a nervous wreck! She was losing weight! She was losing her hair!  However, because of the grooming she still kept going back for more.

At this point, the inappropriate conversation and the sexual advances started to cause her more and more anxiety. While some of the things, he did felt normal and nice, most other times, she would find herself completely spacing out, forgetting time and not feeling anything at all. This often happened when he would talk about sex. She would feel confused. She again asked him to stop but he ignored her requests. She often  would feel too embarrassed and uncomfortable to push the issue. She  was scared. She was confused and she could not understand why he would go so far for her? Why would he take such risks? Why would he risk his job? What he did made her feel very special. It made her feel like he loved her.  She felt like he thought she was special and she did not want to lose this special attention so she was being very careful not to give him any reason to withdraw it.

Guy assured her that he was there for her. Let go and  surrender to whatever feelings she might be having, live in the moment, in the here and now, if it were meant to happen it would happen, just let go and see what happens is what he used to say! Between the grooming, the  transference and the natural psychological attachment, she had become addicted to HIM! She was willing to do pretty much anything he suggested. She was hooked.

Guy made sure that she knew that whatever they chose to do, they could never have a relationship outside and around the people they know or that he worked with. He made sure to let her know that he was breaking the rules and if anyone found out what they were doing, he would lose his job. They had to be careful and keep things “hush hush”.  

At this point she succumbed to Guy’s suggestions. They had been sexting over a cell phone almost daily for a month so sex did not seem like much of a stretch. He had been soliciting nude photos from her and was trying to encourage her to “be bold” and send him pictures of everything! He told her he would hold anything she sent in great confidence. Therefore, in December 2015 they made a plan to meet at a bar, go to a hotel, have sex and spend the weekend together.  She was leaving her family and she was going to have sex with her therapist!!

I am going to stop the story there. What happened next is not relevant. What I will say is SHE DID NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM. She stopped it. It was inappropriate and she knew it. Guy knew it too! Early on, he was very clear that what he was doing was a violation of the rules and the code of ethics and that if anyone found out he would lose his job.

THE AFTER MATH

For seven months she had regular therapy sessions with Guy B. Yeadon and even though these sessions were wrought with sexual banter, sexual innuendo and sexual advances by him, he took payment for every session!!!  She spent these seven months feeling like she was on an emotional rollercoaster. The emotional and physical bonding that occurred when they talked about sex was intense and would leave her feeling high; but once that wore off, she would panic. She was constantly afraid. She was constantly experiencing cycles of intense psychological bonding with her therapist followed by extreme instability, insecurity, emotional and physical despair along with a deep fear of loss and abandonment. She felt depressed, anxious, confused and ashamed.

She found herself caught up in a cycle. Her hair was falling out, she was losing weight. Her moods were all over the place. She had hit another bottom. She was still SOBER but she had lost all sense of personal power and had very little sense of self. She felt worthless. She felt so much despair, confusion and pain that she really did not want to live anymore.  She has since taught herself to disconnect from her emotions so that she would not feel the pain. She  has tried to make everything not matter in order to survive.

She has started revealing the secrets. She has told her family what had been going on. She went to see another therapist who referred her to an inpatient TRAUMA center for long-term treatment. All of her new therapists have explained his boundary violations to her, they have all explained the grooming and how it affected her psychological stability and well-being. 

She has now launched an all-out desperate search for healing. She has maintained her sobriety. She has tried to make sense of what happened to her and fill the void left by the sexual exploitation.  What she has learned is that Guy betrayed her. He used her! He ABUSED her! He took advantage of her vulnerabilities and trust and EXPLOITED her! Sex between a therapist and client/patient is NEVER OK and Guy knows it!

She has also learned that Guy's spirituality, his mysticism, mind-control and brainwashing techniques had played a big part in her relationship with him. He often used teachings from Eastern Philosophy in their therapy. He regularly recommended books by “new age gurus”. He was big on subjects that had to do with not taking responsibility for one’s choices, letting go of emotions and thinking happy thoughts by living in the here and now and embracing the dark side. He often referred to a mystical realm where a transmission of energy could turn your life around and heal whatever ailed you. He taught her chanting and mantras and had her praying to Gods she did not understand. She attended sessions with instructors he recommended that encouraged her to explore sexuality with multiple partners and friends and to open her third eye and sexual chakras to him.

She has proceeded to break all of her ties to Eastern Religion and Mysticism. She has done this not simply because she associated it with Guy, but because she has discovered many more accounts alleging that others who claimed to be spiritually enlightened therapists like Guy, have engaged in sexually abusive relationships like this one.

She also thought that everything would be fine once she was out and away from him. However, in fact, things got worse. Even though she has maintained her sobriety, she now has a new problem to contend with; PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder). It is common for abuse victims to experience PTSD and that is certainly the case for her.

She has had to deal with the loss of the fantasy that he created.  The disillusionment that sex with her therapist was OK was traumatic and left her feeling very ashamed!! For months she has had to experience major anxiety, hypervigilance, brain fog, light-headedness intrusive memories and flashbacks.  She has had to contend with all the reminders of him that are triggering PTSD responses, the repressed feelings that were now making themselves known and the near-daily realizations about what had actually been going on all that time. WHAT GUY DID TO HER  WAS WRONG!

IT IS NEVER OK FOR A COUNSELOR TO TRY TO HAVE SEX WITH A CLIENT/PATIENT. THE HARM THIS CAUSES TO THE PATIENT IS IMMEASUABLE, LONG LASTING AND POTENTIALLY LIFE THREATENING. 

GETTING HER POWER BACK

Guy has never taken responsibility for his actions or the impact they had on her and her family. The decision to file a civil lawsuit has not been an easy one. Several people have suggested that it would be a way for her to “get her power back”.  I have met with an attorney but I have not yet began the process of filing the civil complaints against Guy and the others who have helped perpetuate his abuse. I am waiting until she is mentally stable and able to deal with the extreme stress that is sure to be a part of the process.

Recovery is not a short-term process. Healing from an experience like this is difficult. Expressing difficult memories and feelings is confusing.  Her perspective on what happened and why it happened changes daily as she is able to reach deeper and deeper into levels of awareness and understanding. I am angry. She is angry. I am angry with Guy for what he did to her as is she.  I am angry with myself for not intervening sooner. She is angry for turning an abusive relationship into a fantasy.

Such a big part of healing is accepting oneself and one’s reality. We cannot undo the past. This will always be part of her life and mine. However, we can learn to accept it.  She did the best she could. She did the only thing she knew how to do and that was to trust someone who was supposed to be trustworthy.  It is now up to her  to accept herself and offer herself forgiveness and compassion.

What Guy did was unconscionable. She was his client/patient.

We feel very grateful for the support of friends and family as well as the subsequent therapists and healthcare practitioners who have helped us during our recovery process.

It no longer surprises me that sexual predators often present themselves as a new-age gurus, spiritual advisors, mediation consultants, therapists, counselors or other helping professionals in behavioral health and addiction treatment facilities. These types of professional client relationships are rich hunting grounds for the sexual predator's misbehavior and allow the sexual predator to flourish and readily exploit the vulnerable who are desperately seeking help.  That is what happened to my wife and this is MY STORY.